Surprise! I've actually made a post without waiting over a year!
I've long thought that 2 Tim 2:24-25a ("And the Lordʼs slave must not engage in heated disputes but be kind toward all, an apt teacher, patient, correcting opponents with gentleness.") should govern our discussions a lot more than it typcally does. Even in Christian discussions, "heated disputes" often characterizes our disagreements rather than "correcting with gentleness".
But lately, the followup verses (2 Tim 2:25b-26 "Perhaps God will grant them repentance and then knowledge of the truth and they will come to their senses and escape the devilʼs trap where they are held captive to do his will.") have gotten my attention. We often offer an argument expecting that that argument will effectly stop our opponents in their tracks, that they'll find themselves so thoroughly refuted that they shut up (there's a reason that a common form of click-bait headline is effectively "X's response DESTROYS opponent Ys argument" (of course, if you click through, you typically find that it doesn't really destroy the opponent's argument). We *want* our side to be that "victorious". If inflates our pride in being on the "right side"). But this passage from Paul doesn't seem to engender that expectation. It's more like you leave the effectiveness of your gentle correction up to God, with the result dependent on whether God gives them the grace, repentance and recognition of the truth necessary to escape the error they're in (of course, this assumes that our gentle correction (or heated argument) was correct in the first place, which if we're honest, is regrettably not always the case). The attitude is what gets my attention. It's not "superior", or prideful, or arrogant (all of which are attitudes that often turn off those we're trying to reach). It's a gentle presentation of the truth, leaving the results up to the Father's grace. Are we doing this?